"I am QTBIPOC and an immigrant, he is cis-white-straight/ish citizen, a decade older than me and didn’t even know what queer or BIPOC meant before meeting me...."

The question is: How do I know I am not only doing this 'under the influence' of love?..."A nutty question to a WaPo advice columnist, in "I planned to always be a queer, single cat-mom aunt. Then I met him.